
THE BEST DAD!

MY DAD
At the risk of embarrassing my dear daughter, I'm remembering a Father's Day many years ago when she wrote this poetic gem:
For a father, for a father, for a father, Norrie Hugh,
For a father, for a father, for a father, that is you!
Well, what more needs be said! She and I had very different fathers, but they both loved us. My father was serious, hard-working, tempestuous, creative, intense, controlling, and had a hearty belly laugh. Her father was serious, hard-working, creative, and intense; also very funny, opinionated, affectionate, protective, tolerant and understanding.
Neither of them always listened very well, but they both loved their families and were passionate about their life work and their commitment to those families. Sometimes I envied her when she experienced such closeness and comfort with her dad--something I rarely experienced with mine. Their relationship was dominated by acceptance and good-will. Ours was dominated by fear. There were good reasons why Dad was the way he was, though that doesn't excuse his tendency toward verbal abuse. As I grew older, I could both cherish his love and forgive him for what he inflicted on all of us. I never had to forgive Norris, other than for adoring his daughter more than anyone in the world. And why shouldn't he?
How very fortunate to have two such good men in my life. When I feel sorry for myself now, it's good to remember them and the blessing they were. I guess they both "took care of me", so now I am learning at last to take care of myself. It's not easy. But I'm grateful for what each of them did to help me grow, mature, be strong and self-sufficient. Thank you, Dad. Thank you, Norris. I love you both always. In the name of the Father!!!